On Feelings


FEAR: Focusing your Eyes on Average Reality

Noua Omenire
A page of The War Of Art by Steven Pressfield

The two faces of Fear

Fear never leaves our side. We tend to see that as something negative: it limits our expressions, prevents our progress, makes us angry and frustrated. Furthermore, it also represents that inner voice that encourages us, waiting for us to face it, demonstrating that we are capable of achieving everything we set out to do. It will always depend on us what role we give to this feeling.

Not fearless, but brave

The dominance that our psyche possesses on our lives is absolute. If we want to move towards the road of positivity, we have to be strong, we have to become warriors and aware that deep within ourselves lies the capacity of taking control over our minds. We decide how to feel and react in front of a particular situation. The existence of a natural force that is constantly driving us across the way of uncertainty and anxiety will never leave our side—it is always there, keeping us company and holding us back from having faith in our potentials. It is nothing but that voice in our heads, overshadowing the light that radiates within ourselves. That is the voice of fear, the sound that detracts from our inner light as a guide.
Although, as much as how uncomfortable we may feel around that fear, it is up to us to take the reins of our mind, accepting the fact that we won’t be able to dispose of that fear, and deciding to do quite the opposite: we should embrace it, welcome it, take it by the hand.

But, what happens when fear imprisons us and reality fades?

When we let this feeling control our lives, we lose sight of the horizon, and the reality of things takes a dramatic—and almost fictitious—appearance. We take a stand as victims, and everything turns out to be more difficult than it is.
Fear is something we hold inside which thwarts us from doing things we want, inhibits our true selves, and prevents us from expressing our opinions, or being true to our principles. It comes from within every person as an instinct or protective shield, in which we feel sheltered. Even though to a certain extent, fear acts as a mechanism of defence, it is not something we should promote. If we gave so much relevance to it, we would withhold ourselves from doing things.
However, there is another kind of fear which puts us to the test. That’s the voice inside our heads warning us that whatever we aspire to do will have consequences. It leads us to hesitation. Thus reality begins to fade: our minds play around the realms of possibility of what could happen if we brought ourselves to give the first step towards our aims.
We are terrified of bewailed our decisions. Thus, instead of confronting any disquiet, we refrain from attempting to follow our intuition in the first place. Even knowing there is no bigger frustration than wondering what could have happened if we weren’t so afraid. Consequently, a question develops in our minds: What if…? Only we don’t have a proper answer to that query, and it brings about a guilty feeling which it isn’t easy to evade.

How to find the freedom we deprived ourselves of?

It would appear that we become distanced from our main course when we compare ourselves with those we observe through the platform of some social network, or even when we witness the self-improvement fulfilling friends, family members and any acquaintance’s lives. We believe we are the only ones who struggle in terms of overcoming any adversity. Therefore, we set aside our identity, forgetting not only who we are, but also our ability to appreciate our preferences, choices and beliefs.
We are persistently comparing ourselves to others while we should be concentrating on who we are as a person. We have no reason to follow the footsteps of others: it is another way to seclude ourselves.
Once we begin to walk through the path named after us, we challenge fear and embrace freedom.
When we realise how relieving it feels to focus our complete attention in our inner-selves, we become aware of how wonderful we are. We must learn to feel empathy towards ourselves, as well as to be empathetic concerning society. Being kind is not only good for our community, but it makes us feel good about ourselves. Kindness is a variety of strength, is what it comes from confronting that fear, from avoiding comparing ourselves to other people, from focusing on what really matters, and from not allowing our inner-light from being eclipsed. Thus, if we dare to start walking through our path, answering the call addressed to us, and focusing on our quest, only by thinking what makes us happy, we’ll consequently meet freedom on the other side.
We understand that is nothing but difficult to remove the spotlight from others and place it on ourselves, but isn’t life about putting up with challenges? Furthermore, eventually, we will realise that fear is a trivial, ordinary and tedious feeling, with only one intention: Distancing us from ourselves.

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